In my first blog on Perfectionism & ADHD, I shared how this corrosive mindset acts on our brains, psyches and emotions much like an addiction. The Allure, the Hit, the Denial, the Escape, the Cost and the Failure to Thrive that the pursuit of perfectionism generates, reads almost word for word like the classic addict story! In the Second Blog I […]
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Perfectionism Blog #3 The Risks and the Costs of Perfectionism to our ADHD Brains… Perfectionism is a seductive coping mechanism that we use to mask shame and insecurity and fear of failure. It’s also a way of feeling in control that gives us a fix or a dopamine hit (see the 1st Blog in this series
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In my last post on Perfectionism and ADHD (link here), I described this aspect of our thinking as one of the most pervasive, alluring, seductive and damaging mindsets we as ADHD adults face. So much so, I compare it to addiction. As a recovering alcoholic, codependent and perfectionist myself, I don’t make that comparison lightly! Many of us
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The perfectionism that comes with ADHD, whether caused by ADHD’s Black and White thinking or as a coping mechanism to mask any feelings of shame and inadequacy from repeated failures, or perhaps even at its extreme end (the comorbid condition of OCPD) Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder. However it developed and to whatever degree we experience it,
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People with ADHD are Time Blind. Ned Hallowell once said that we know only two time zones, the Now and the not Now. This aspect of our ADHD can easily snowball into a huge problem for us and for those around us. It creates a lack of focus, low motivation, distraction, overwhelm, procrastination and anxiety.
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What is ADHD Overwhelm? ADHD Overwhelm is very Real. Overwhelm in the ADHD brain is when your mind literally shuts down, much like a power grid that has too much demand on it, effectively shorting it out. One of the biggest differences in how the ADHD brain works is in how it receives and processes
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One of the Six Aspects of a Whole ADHD Life is Connection. People with ADHD (just like every other human being), are wired for Connection. Meaningful, safe, nurturing, supportive, joyful, playful, stimulating and comforting Connection. To ourselves (first and foremost), then to others. Family, friends, significant others, community, pets, nature, spirit, God, the universe and everything!
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One of the aspects of a Whole ADHD life is what I like to call our Ecology. Otherwise known as your space, environment and/or your surroundings. If you’ve read any of my past blogs, Instagram posts or articles, you already know how much I love using nature terms (like Ecology) in my Coaching work. That’s
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Getting a new ADHD diagnosis as an adult can come as a huge shock. This new reality shines a fresh light on our past and has so many possible implications for our future. Its as though our past has been forever changed, much like a puzzle that’s been shattered into a thousand fragments, altering the
“Each man must look to himself to teach him the meaning of life. It is not something discovered: it is something molded.” – Antoine de Saint-Exupéry. The nature of the ADHD mind is a creative one, a nonlinear broad highway that winds and turns in an innately curious way, a seeker of novelty and stimulus. When
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